My heart is hurting this week from all of the news and opinions that are flooding social media concerning the decisions being made in New York. I have not ever undergone the agony and pain that must come with enduring an abortion, but I am a mother that has lost life on the inside of her. I have been a victim of rape and the fear that arises wondering if there will be proof of that pain with another life form. As you read this, please know that I love all people, regardless of where they are on their journey, so please keep that in mind as I share my view on this ultra-sensitive topic.
When does life begin seems to be the most debated question when society argues pro-choice or pro-life. As someone that has carried life and as someone that has lost life, I can tell you that each was as real as the other. There is no one that can tell me that I will not meet the two babies that I lost one day. I can also tell you that the pain I felt with those miscarriages were the same grief I have felt when losing a loved one. I know that the stance on pro-choice stands for the rights of women and their bodies, however, I wonder who stands for life that has no voice yet? Our social media is flooded with opinions and videos concerning violence against skin color, sexual orientation and occupation. So why is the life of an unborn child or partially born baby, regardless of the amount of time it has been in the womb, not considered a valuable life or deemed of having purpose? The recent news on abortion being allowed all the way up to birth haunts me as I lay here and stare at my youngest baby and wonder how someone could have not considered his purpose meaningful. I also sit here in pain wondering how someone might come to that decision and how difficult it might be to consider if you have the strength to stand for the life that you may or may not think you want. I am so perplexed why this would be allowed all the way up to the day before a child is born, but if a woman kills her newborn the day after birth, then it is considered murder. Or if someone murdered a pregnant woman, then they are charged for two deaths, not just one. I don’t understand how life is not considered valuable in every scenario.
I have never had an abortion, but I know many who have. I know that regardless of the amount of time that passes, they have never been able to forget that child. No amount of time ever makes that pain and void disappear. Fortunately, I have no ability to calculate the amount of God’s grace that covers these women. My opinion is not judgment in any way because I remember trying to decide what I would do had the rape I endured years ago resulted in pregnancy. I remember getting to the place where I realized that if that was the outcome, trying to erase a baby would never erase the trauma and victory that I would carry forever. Trying to avoid the realization of what happened by not having to live through 9 months of pregnancy will never abort what you will carry for the rest of your life.
God’s grace and love for us is as far as the east is from the west. If you have endured an abortion and are living with that, I pray that His peace falls on you and that you can rest knowing He forgives you and that you will see that child again one day…and that you know that your child also forgives you. If you are pregnant and are considering an abortion – please consider the option of adoption. I have witnessed the amazing power of adoption personally with one of my own children and through friends that have recently adopted a sweet baby girl. The amount of love that I have for each of my children is deep, but choosing to love someone when you do not have to is the deepest love that I have ever known. I am always amazed when I think of my ability to love in this way and how it has to be because of God’s love and ability to adopt me into His own family.
Whether you agree or disagree with my stance, please take a minute to pray about the time that we live in and how the important things in life are beginning to be deemed unimportant. When you are posting about which lives matter more – black, white, straight, homosexual, male, female – please ask yourself why you do not believe that all lives matter equally. These unborn children matter. To allow such a painful death knowing that they feel the entire thing hurts my heart in a way I cannot describe. Research what is actually done during these abortions and consider why this is being allowed. Could the motive be for medical study, population control, political advance, just plain carelessness for life? I don’t know. What I do know is that God created life and that He is still on the throne. I know that if my heart is hurting, then His must be exploding. The amount of love that He has for each of us BEFORE conception can never be calculated. And I know that the amount of love that you or another parent could offer that unborn child is immense. I am signing the petition asking for this expansion to be overturned - not because I think I have all the answers. Definitely not on a topic such as this. But because not taking a stance and doing nothing is, in fact, taking a stance. I choose that all lives matter.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;”